Men behaving badly and the women who love them

Once again, sadly, the headlines are buzzing with steamy gossip about destructive sexual behavior in the world of the rich and famous.  In this post, I am only going to focus on the “fornicator/terminator,” Arnold.  Not that there isn’t so many to chose from!  There’s Andy Dick (oh, the irony of that name) and his latest arrest, Dominique Strauss-Kahn with his attempted rape allegations and subsequent house arrest, or Charlie Sheen’s many escapades.  The list is endless and spans both space and time.

The latest is, as anyone who isn’t a complete recluse knows, that Arnold Schwarzenegger fathered a child around 14 years ago with a member of his household staff.  It seems, in fact, that she and Maria Shriver were pregnant at the same time.  There are so many truly sad, disturbing things about this story, but as a woman and a mother, one thought that came to my mind right away was, “How can something like this happen in a country where birth control is as easy to obtain as Ibuprofen?”

I personally hold both men and women EQUALLY responsible for birth control, so whiners who complain or criticize a woman for “trapping” a man by getting pregnant, need to grow up.  Men, you too have many choices for birth control, and it’s up to you to “whip them out” if you want to play but do not want to make a baby.  And no hiding behind, “she told me she was on birth control.”  It’s your life, so make decisions and take the appropriate action on what you do or do not want the outcome of  your actions to be.  News flash, a uterus or lack there of does not determine who is more responsible for any child born following sex.  That is where babies come from, just in case there are any doubts, sex.

That said, the next thought I had was, do either one of these idiots have even an ounce of decency?  I am not addressing their morality in regards to infidelity, that is their business and I couldn’t care less. I am thinking of the children who have to live with their ugliness.  They both had to know there was a good chance that if they were knocking boots, a child may result from that union.  And that child would have no choice but to be born into and have to live a life of unwanted notoriety.  Not to mention the shock of the Kindergarten Cop’s other children finding out that their housekeeper’s child, is there sibling.  She was reported to have been “like a part of the family,” and what do you know, her son WAS a part of the family.

How must that child feel now that his home, pictures of his mother and her family, and his home town have been splashed all over the news.  Of course the media have been patting themselves on the back for not showing his face “to protect him.”  Really?  How thoughtful of them.  Bakersfield is very much a “small town” in many ways.  I am sure there isn’t anyone in that town who knows this family, and many more who don’t, who aren’t well aware of who this boy is.

While Arnold is being portrayed as the spineless rat in the media, I place equal blame on Mildred Baena.  She’s old enough to know how birth control works.  She also has other children including the one she gave birth to as a result of an affair with her married employer.  They too are hurt by her thoughtless, stupid behavior.  I can’t say what her motivation was to be so careless, but I have a sneaking suspicion money may have had something to do with  it.  If that is the case, that makes her a worst kind of gold digger of all.  The kind that uses a child as a means to an end.

  8 comments for “Men behaving badly and the women who love them

  1. May 21, 2011 at 4:05 pm

    Nice post Cynthia; I can never understand why a woman cheats with a man she knows is married. And employer-employee or interoffice affairs are the worst of the lot.

    • Kathy Findley
      May 21, 2011 at 4:26 pm

      You mean, nice post Kathy?

  2. junior
    May 22, 2011 at 7:47 am

    Men behaving badly and the women who love them:


    • Kathy Findley
      May 22, 2011 at 6:54 pm


  3. Randy
    May 22, 2011 at 4:05 pm

    According to the Pope, good Catholic women don’t use birth control. So it’s all Arnold’s fault.

    • Kathy Findley
      May 22, 2011 at 6:53 pm

      I don’t think we know the religion of the woman in question here, do we?

  4. cook
    May 23, 2011 at 10:17 am

    Come on, if your parents didn’t have children, chances are you won’t either.

    • Kathy Findley
      May 23, 2011 at 6:50 pm

      These comments keep getting stranger and stranger. What does that mean “If you’re parents didn’t have children, chances are you won’t either.”?? And how does it tie into, anything.

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