The Gift of Equality

On Saturday night, I went out to the historic Orange Circle to join some friends in asking for a special gift for the holidays. We weren’t asking for anything expensive or extravagant. All we really want is equality.

Yes, that’s right. All we want is the gift of equality. This nation has simultaneously experienced a great leap forward in civil rights with the election of Barack Obama as our next President and a major setback in civil rights with the passage of same-sex marriage bans here in California, as well as in Arizona and Florida, along with an adoption ban in Arkansas. These last three weeks since the election have been so awkwardly painful not just for LGBT people, but for all people who care about equal rights.

However, November 4, 2008, isn’t the end date of this story of the long struggle for equality. Rather, it’s just turned out to be a new beginning. People from all over America, even here in Orange County, have filled the streets to peacefully ask for equality.

That’s what happened last Saturday night in Orange. While others all around us went out to eat and drink and party, we were out to ask for the holiday gift of equal rights. We had students from Chapman along with families from nearby neighborhoods. We had little girls ask why their mommies couldn’t marry, and we had young couples ask why they couldn’t marry. Why can’t all loving relationships be equally legally recognized?

Well, there is some good news. The state supreme court has now agreed to answer that question. Fortunately, we have great allies in court with a strong case to make for the invalidation of Prop 8, the unconstitutional marriage ban. And better yet, our progressive allies are preparing for a campaign to secure our rights no matter what happens in court.

Still, we can’t just expect victory. We have to make victory happen! I mean it. We may not be able to argue in front of the court, and we may not be able to develop campaign plans for 2010 & 2012. But believe it or not, we can still give each other the gift of equality this holiday season.

How so? We can give each other (or ourselves!) the gift of equality by supporting these organizations working for victory on the legal AND political fronts!



Lambda Legal

National Center for Lesbian Rights


Courage Campaign

Equality California

This campaign is NOT over, not by a long shot! And really, what better gift for the holidays than real equal rights? So why buy those typical material presents that may or may not be used? Why not give the ones you love a very special gift that everyone will cherish?

  3 comments for “The Gift of Equality

  1. Misha Houser
    November 24, 2008 at 6:54 am

    There’s no way I’d give money to Equality California! They totally blew the campaign against Proposition H8. They had no Field Strategy, signs were hard to get (ECCO had to spend its own money just so folks here could have signs while we waited for =CA’s materials to show up).

    It wasn’t until the very end when enough people/groups criticized =CA that they put out the Samuel Jackson that directly discussed the civil rights issues rather than their lame, muddled messages about marriage that played into the religious right’s hands.

    They had the crappiest message and the worst organization and basically snatched defeat from the jaws of victory. Put your money into the legal defense. ..

    In the meantime, every one of the =CA team should resign in shame.

  2. November 24, 2008 at 9:15 am


    Unfortunately, all of that is true. Fortunately, we also have Courage Campaign to donate to if anyone feels uncomfortable donating to EQCA. I’ve heard that EQCA may try to fix its mistakes, but I guess we won’t really know if that’s the case until we see something different out of them.

    Honestly, I don’t think anyone was prepared for the onslaught of LDS Church $$$$ & brutally disgusting ads. However, we could have at least had a better field plan and a strong, consistent message to withstand whatever crap the other side threw our way.

    But anyways, we have options to “give our gifts of equality”… So Courage & the legal defense orgs are all great groups for us to help!

  3. Theodore Schraff
    November 24, 2008 at 11:06 pm

    Blame Blame Blame!!!! Let’s all get over it and get on to what we can do NOW! Stand up and get OUT OF THE CLOSET! Make your self known @ work, your community, your church/temple/synagog. Contribute your time(if not money) by discussing your view of being ROBBED of a civil right to your neighbors and co-workers. And then make a clear effort to have those who voted AGAINST LGBT’s Nov. 4th, get to know you and understand it is a CIVIL ISSUE, NOT A RELIGIOUS ONE!

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