Since I’m the oldest guy posting here and (I think) the only dad, I wanted to alert our readers to an outstanding post over at Orange Juice by Claudio.Ã‚Â SanÃ‚Â Diego’s Republican Mayor Jerry Sanders has a daughter that he loves unconditionally.Ã‚Â His daughter is a lesbian and through what must be countless hours of conversion and soul searching, Mayor Sanders has changed his position on same-sex marriage.
Anyone who ever saw “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner” could see the angst in Spencer Tracy’s performance as he struggled to come to terms with his character’s daughter’s pending interracial marriage to Sidney Poitier.Ã‚Â At the end of the movie, he not only came to terms with it, but lent his heart and soul to it because it meant his daughter’s happiness.Ã‚Â He pledged to help the groom’s father come to terms with it as well.Ã‚Â
Jon Fleischman posted this on Red County/San Diego:
The issue of same-sex marriage, and how it is dealt with as a public-policy issue, has been around for a very, very long time.Ã‚Â For Sanders to talk about an “evolution” of his position since he was elected strains credibility.
It is actually much more believable that he adopted a position to appeal to base values-voters and Republicans in his first election, and now that he is running as an incumbent (and has already been endorsed for re-election by the GOP), he feels that he can just change his positions on key issues.
I think that this kind of political shell game will come back to bite the Mayor big-time.Ã‚Â I just got a press release from Republican businessman Steve Francis, announcing that he has formed an exploratory committee to challenge Sanders.
Perhaps we now should look to the San Diego County GOP, and what they may do in light of Sanders’ “evolution” on such a key issue of our day.Ã‚Â Maybe its time for the GOP to “evolve” their position on the Mayoral race…
And on Jon’s site, under the listing of 20 bills the Governor should veto is this ditty by Jon, Rep. Chuck DeVore, and State Senator Dennis Hollingsworth on AB43, Rep. Mark Leno’s Gay Marriage Bill:
The final one is AB 43 by Assemblyman Leno (D-San Francisco), the annual attempt at legalizing same-sex marriage in California.Ã‚Â Vetoed last year, this overturning of traditional marriage could lead to all sorts of consequences down the road, such as polygamy in the name of religious freedom, or parents marrying their children to avoid death taxes (Why not?Ã‚Â Once two millennia of proven tradition goes out the window, anything goes…).Ã‚Â The Governor has announced that he will veto this bill.
As Matt Cunningham might say, this notion of parents marrying children to avoid paying a death tax is a straw man.Ã‚Â There is no advocacy or lobbying group pushing for this sort of marriage or change in marital law.Ã‚Â Incest is still against the law in America.Ã‚Â Marriage to a minor child without parental consent is also illegal and in many societies is considered children sexual abuse.Ã‚Â Chuck is usually so thorough with research and documentation to support his position, but there isn’t a record of this being a problem in countries where gay marriage is legal or in Massachusetts where gay marriage is legal.Ã‚Â At best, its another case of Republicans trying to scare the population into fearing gay marriage.Ã‚Â At worst, its discrimination (sorry, I’m not playing the bigotry card).Ã‚Â This from the party that touts itself as the part of personal freedom (unless you’re gay).
I think Mayor Sanders should take Jon at his word and tell him where to stick the GOP endorsement.Ã‚Â How anyone canÃ‚Â seriously take the GOP as the party of family values if it asked candidates to choose between the party and a family member.Ã‚Â
Claudio went a step further in his post and wished gay children on this GOP critics.Ã‚Â I don’t think this would help when you look at how conservative leaders like Alan Keyes, Phyllis Schafly, and Randall Terry have treated their own gay children hasn’t been enlighting to conservatives. Still, its groundbreaking that a conservative city like San Diego is deadlocked on the issue of Gay marriage and it must scare conservatives half to death.
From the San Jose Mercury News profile of Jon Fleischman during the state budget impasse, it was revealed Jon is about toÃ‚Â become the father of a son.Ã‚Â I wish him and his wife a healthy child, a quick labor andÃ‚Â all the joys that parenthood brings.Ã‚Â And one of those joys that comes with being a parent is unconditional love that existsÃ‚Â between a parent and child.Ã‚Â Ã‚Â You discover quite quickly that anyone who gives you an ultimatum that means choose us or your child, that the choice is for the child everytime.Ã‚Â Ã‚Â
Children need their parents’ love and suport.Ã‚Â Gay children need love, support and understanding.Ã‚Â Having a gay child is not like having a child with a disease or disorder or a condition.Ã‚Â It’s more like having a child with blue eeys or black hair.Ã‚Â One who is tall or short.Ã‚Â Being gay is not a choice and its not an affliction.Ã‚Â Ã‚Â Ã‚Â Ã‚Â And it certainly doesn’t mean they are less deserving of love or less capable of giving it.Ã‚Â
Suggesting that the Party evolve their position or revoke their endorsement because Sanders has changed his position on what should be a private matter between two non-related consenting adults seems to fly in the face of the limited government instrusion position Republicans claim as a foundation of their party.Ã‚Â And its mean-spirited and wrong.